When the heart speaks..

Sometimes struggles are exactly what we need in our life. If we were to go through our life without any obstacles, we would be crippled. We would not be as strong as what we could have been. Give every opportunity a chance, leave no room for regrets.

Rose Colors "N" Their Meanings

Red: Love and Romance

One of the most universal of all symbols, the red rose represents true love. It has also appeared throughout history and across cultures as both a political and religious symbol.

Yellow: Friendship, Joy, Get Well

Throughout history, yellow has been closely associated with the sun, making these roses excellent for cheering people up. Yellow roses send a message of appreciation and platonic love without the romantic subtext of other colors. The color represents feelings of joy and delight.

Pink: Love, Gratitude, Appreciation

Pink carries with it the connotation of grace and elegance, as well as sweetness and poetic romance.

Dark pink roses are symbolic of gratitude and appreciation, and are a traditional way to say thanks.

Light pink roses are associated with gentleness and admiration, and can also be used as an expression of sympathy.

White: Purity, Innocence, Sympathy, Spirituality

Early tradition used white roses as a symbol for true love, an association which would later become the hallmark of the red rose. Also known as the bridal rose, the white rose is a traditional wedding flower. In this sense, white represents unity, virtue, and the pureness of a new love. White roses are also associated with honor and reverence, which makes them a fitting memorial for a departed loved one.

Orange: Desire, Enthusiasm and Passion

A literal mixture of yellow and red, orange roses were seen as a bridge between friendship symbolized by yellow roses and love represented by red roses. They can be an expression of fascination, or a gift to say 'I'm proud of you.'

Lavender: Enchantment, Majesty, Love at First Sight

The color purple has a traditional association with royalty. In this regard, shades of lavender roses suggest an air of regal majesty and splendor.

Source: proflowers.com

Somebody said at some time:

WORK as if you have no need of the money.

LOVE as if nobody ever made you suffer.

DANCE as if nobody is watching you.

SING as if nobody is hearing you.

LIVE as if the Paradise were on this Earth.

Why Do We SHOUT?

One day, a professor asked his students 'Why do we SHOUT instead of speak when we are ANGRY?'

All the students thought for a while. One answered 'Because we lost our cool. That's why we SHOUT.'

Asked the professor again, 'But the person is just right next to you, why can't we talk softly but have to SHOUT?'

Everyone gave their opinions but none was accepted by the professor.

Lastly explained by the professor 'When we are ANGRY, our hearts drift apart. To mask the DISTANCE we felt, we instinctively SHOUT instead of speak so the other party can hear us.'

'But as we SHOUT, we get ANGRIER. And we felt we drift apart further. So we SHOUT even louder...'

'It is the opposite when we are in love. Not only we do not shout, we whisper into each other ears. Why?'

'This is because our hearts are very close, almost never apart. As our love deepen, we reach a state of communication where there is no need for words.'

'We understand each other well enough just by exchanging look,' concluded the professor.

'Therefore, when we are arguing, DO NOT speak words that will make our hearts drift apart. WAIT a few days. When you feel your hearts are no longer far apart, pick up the conversation and continue from there.'

HAVE A NICE WEEKEND!

LOVE - - > Meaningful Sentences

To My Friends Who Are...........SINGLE

給我單身朋友們

Love is like a butterfly. The more you chase it, the more it eludes you.

愛就像一隻蝴蝶。越要追牠，卻越要逃避。

But if you just let it fly, it will come to you when you least expect it.

如果就隨牠自由的飛，牠會在你最不注意時飛向你。

Love can make you happy but often it hurts, but love's only special when you give it to someone who is really worth it.

愛使人快樂，卻常傷害人。但只有在你把愛給了一個真正值得付出的人時，是最珍貴的。

So take your time and choose the best.

所以，花點時間去選擇最好的他/她吧

To My Friends Who Are............NOT SO SINGLE

給我那不是單身的朋友們

Love isn't about becoming somebody else's 'perfect person'.

愛不能使他/她成為一個'完美的人

It's about finding someone who helps you become the best person you can be.

它卻可以使你找到一個幫你成長的他/她

To My Friends Who Are............PLAYBOY/GIRL TYPE

給我玩世不恭的朋友們

Never say 'I love you' if you don't care. Never talk about feelings if they aren;t there.

如果你不在乎，不要說'我愛你'。如果他們不在時，不要討論自已的感受

Never touch a life if you mean to break a heart.

不要涉足會使他人心碎的生活。

Never look in the eye when all you do is lie.

說謊時，不要看著眼睛。

The cruelest thing a guy can do to a girl is to let her fall in love when he doesn't intend to catch her fall and it works both ways...

最殘忍的事莫過於男人讓女人愛他，卻是逢場作戲。反之亦然...

To My Friends Who Are............MARRIED

給我已婚的朋友們

Love is not about 'it's your fault', but 'I'm sorry.'

不要老是說'這是你的錯'，何不說說'對不起'。

Not 'where are you, but 'I'm right here.' Not 'how could you', but 'I understand.'

不要老是問'你去哪裡了'，何不說說'我就在這兒等著你'。 不要老是問'你怎麼會這麼作？'，何不說說'我了解你'。

Not 'I wish you were', but 'I'm thankful you are.'

不要老是說'我希望你這麼做'，何不說說'我感謝你的一切'。

To My Friends Who Are............ENGAGED

給我那已訂婚的朋友們

The true measure of compatibility is not the years spent together but how good you are for each other.

要真正衡量包容心，不是看在一起幾年了，而是要看彼此的敬愛

To My Friends Who Are............HEARTBROKEN

給我心碎的朋友們

Heartbreaks last as long as you want and cut as deep as you allow them to go.

心碎的時間和傷害的深度，完全取決於你自已。

The challenge is not how to survive heartbreaks but to learn from them.

難的是，如何從中學習，而不是從傷痛中爬起。

To My Friends Who Are............NAIVE

給我所有天真的朋友們

How to be in love: Fall but don't stumble, be consistent but not too

要如何戀愛？--就愛吧。不要欲言又止；要互相協調，不要太固執；

persistent, share and never be unfair, understand and try not to demand,

要分享，且千萬不要有不公平；要了解，別命令；

and get hurt but never keep the pain.

受傷後不要再記恨。

To My Friends Who Are............POSSESSIVE

給我積極的朋友們

It breaks your heart to see the one you love happy with someone else but

看到你所愛的他/她和其他人很快樂使你心碎

it's more painful to know that the one you love is unhappy with you.

但知道你所愛的他/她是和你在一起不快樂，令人更加的傷心。

To My Friends Who Are............AFRAID TO CONFESS

給我害怕去承認的朋友們

Love hurts when you break up with someone. It hurts even more when

當你和他/她分手時，愛受到傷害

someone breaks up with you. But love hurts the most when the person you

當他/她和你分手時，更是傷痛

love has no idea how you feel.

但傷害最深的是你所愛的他/她完全無法了解你的感受

To My Friends Who Are............STILL HOLDING ON

給我那還在等待的朋友們

A sad thing about life is when you meet someone and fall in love, only to

人生最傷心的事，是你和他/她愛情長跑了多年，最後的結局卻不如所望。

find out in the end that it was never meant to be and that you have wasted years on someone who wasn't worth it. If he isn't worth it now he's not

'如果他/她現在讓你覺得不值得付出，那麼一年，甚至十年後，都不會值得付出的。

going to be worth it a year or 10 years from now. Let go.....

讓他/她走吧

TO ALL MY FRIENDS.......

給我所有的朋友們

My wish for you is a man/women whose love is honest, strong, mature, never changing, uplifting, protective, encouraging, rewarding and unselfish.

我竭誠祝福你們愛著一個誠實、強壯、成熟、衷心、有衝勁、保護你、積極、值得付出和無私的他/她。

Alphabets can MOTIVATE

Avoid negative sources, people, places, things & habits.

Believe in yourself.

Consider things from every angle.

Don't give up and don't give in.

Enjoy life today, yesterday is gone, tomorrow may never come.

Family and friends are hidden treasures; enjoy their riches.

Give more than you planned to.

Hang on to your dreams.

Ignore those who try to discourage you.

Just do it.

Keep trying no matter how hard it seems, it will get easier.

Love yourself first and most.

Make it happen.

Never lie, cheat or steal, always strike a fair deal.

Open your eyes and see things as they really are.

Practice makes perfect.

Quitters never win and winners never quit.

Read, study and learn about everything important in your life.

Stop procrastinating.

Take control of your own destiny.

Understand yourself in order to better understand others.

Visualize it.

Want it more than anything.

Xcellerate your efforts.

You are unique of all God's creations, nothing can replace YOU.

Zero in on your target and go for it!

Finding & Keeping A Life Partner

by Dov Heller, M.A.

The article below would be useful for both the married and unmarried ones, please take some time to read.

Rule # 1 - MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON AND 90% OF YOUR PROBLEMS ARE SOLVED

When it comes to making the decision about choosing a life partner, no one wants to make a mistake. Yet, with a divorce rate of close to 50%, it appears that many are making serious mistakes in their approach to finding Mr./Miss. Right!

If you ask most couples who are engaged why they're getting married, they'll say: 'We're in love'. I believe this is the .. 1 mistake people make when they date. Choosing a life partner should never be based on love. Though this may sound 'not politically correct, there's a profound truth here.

Love is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love is the result of a good marriage. When the other ingredients are right, then the love will come. Let me say it again: 'You can't build a lifetime relationship on love alone, You need a lot more'!!!

Here are five questions you must ask yourself if you're serious about finding and keeping a life partner.

QUESTION ..1: Do we share a common life purpose?

Why is this so important? Let me put it this way: If you're married for 20 or 30 years, that's a long time to live with someone. What do you plan to do with each other all that time? Travel, eat and jog together? You need to share something deeper and more meaningful. You need a common life purpose.

Two things can happen in a marriage: (1) You can grow together, or (2) you can grow apart. 50% of the people out there are growing apart. To make a marriage work, you need to know what you want out of life! Bottom line: marry someone who wants the same thing.

QUESTION ..2: Do I feel safe expressing my feelings and thoughts with this person?

This question goes to the core of the quality of your relationship. Feeling safe means you can communicate openly with this person. The basis of having good communication is trust i.e. trust that I won't get 'punished' or hurt for expressing my honest thoughts and feelings. A colleague of mine defines an abusive person as someone with whom you feel afraid to express your thoughts and feelings. Be honest with yourself on this one. Make sure you feel emotionally safe with the person you plan to marry.

QUESTION ..3: Is he/she a mensch?

A mensch is someone who is a refined and sensitive person. How can you test? Here are some suggestions. Do they work on personal growth on a regular basis? Are they serious about improving themselves? A teacher of mine defines a good person as 'someone who is always striving to be good and do the right'. So ask about your significant other: What do they do with their time? Is this person materialistic? Usually a materialistic person is not someone whose top priority is character refinement.

There are essentially two types of people in the world: (1) People who are dedicated to personal growth and (2) people who are dedicated to seeking comfort. Someone whose goal in life is to be comfortable will put personal comfort ahead of doing the right thing. You need to know that before walking down the aisle.

QUESTION ..4: How does he/she treat other people?

The one most important thing that makes any relationship work is the ability to give. By giving, we mean the ability to give another person pleasure.

Ask: Is this someone who enjoys giving pleasure to others or are they wrapped up in themselves and self absorbed?
To measure this, think about the following: How do they treat people whom they do not have to be nice to such as waiters, bus boys, taxi drivers, etc.. How do they treat their parents and siblings? Do they have gratitude and appreciation?
If they don't have gratitude for the people who have given them everything; can you do nearly as much for them? You can be sure that someone who treats others poorly will eventually treat you poorly as well.

QUESTION ..5: Is there anything I'm hoping to change about this person after we're married?

Too many people make the mistake of marrying someone with the intention of trying to 'improve' them after they're married. As a colleague of mine puts it: 'You can probably expect someone to change after marriage for the worse'. If you cannot fully accept this person the way they are now, then you are not ready to marry them.

In conclusion, dating doesn't have to be difficult and treacherous. The key is to try leading a little more with your head and less with your heart. It pays to be as objective as possible when you are dating, to be sure to ask questions that will help you get to the key issues. Falling in love is a great feeling but when you wake up with a ring on your finger, you don't want to find yourself trouble because you didn't do your homework.

Another perspective...

There are some people in your life that need to be loved from a distance.. It's amazing what you can accomplish when you let go of or at least minimize your time with draining, negative, incompatible, not a going anywhere relationships. Observe the relationships around you.

Pay attention... Which ones lift and which ones lean? Which ones encourage and which ones discourage? Which ones are on a path of growth uphill and which ones are going downhill? When you leave certain people do you feel better or feel worse? Which ones don't appreciate you?Which ones make you feel good, praises you, boosts you with loving and caring words or annotations?

The more you seek quality, respect, growth, peace of mind, love and truth around you... the easier it will become for you to decide who gets to sit in the front row and who should be moved to the balcony of your life.

An African proverb states, 'Before you get married, keep both eyes open and after you marry, close one eye'. Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren't really that important.

Do you bring out the best in each other?
Do you compliment and compromise with each other or do you compete, compare and control?
What do you bring to the relationship?
Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust and past pain?

You can't take someone to the altar to alter them. You can't make someone love you or make someone stay.
If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment and 'a life', you won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain. Seeking status, sex and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship.

WHAT KEEPS A RELATIONSHIP STRONG IS:

1. TRUST
2. COMMUNICATION
3. INTIMACY
4. A SENSE OF HUMOR
5. SHARING TASKS
6. DAILY EXCHANGES (meal, shared activity, hug, call, touch, notes, etc.)
7. SHARING COMMON GOALS AND INTERESTS
8. GIVING EACH OTHER SPACE TO GROW WITHOUT FEELING INSECURE
9.GIVING EACH OTHER A SENSE OF BELONGING AND ASSURANCES OF COMMITMENT
10. CONCERN AND CARE FOR YOUR LOVER IN YOUR OWN WAYS.

If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment withdrawal, abuse, neglect, and dishonesty and pain will replace.

A Persons Attitude

READ THIS...
LET IT REALLY SINK IN - THEN CHOOSE.

John is the kind of guy you love to hate. He is always in a good mood and always has something positive to say. When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would reply, "If I were any better, I would be twins!"

He was a natural motivator.

If an employee was having a bad day, John was there telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the situation.

Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up and asked him, "I don't get it!"

"You can't be a positive person all of the time. How do you do it?"

He replied, "Each morning I wake up and say to myself, you have two choices today.
You can choose to be in a good mood or...you can choose to be in a bad mood.
I choose to be in a good mood."

Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or...I can choose to learn from it. I choose to learn from it.

Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or...I can point out the positive side of life.
I choose the positive side of life.

"Yeah, right, it's not that easy," I protested.

"Yes, it is," he said. "Life is all about choices. When you cut away all the junk, every situation is a choice. You choose how you react to situations. You choose how people affect your mood.

You choose to be in a good mood or bad mood. The bottom line: It's your choice how you live your life.

"I reflected on what he said. Soon hereafter, I left the Tower Industry to start my own business. We lost touch, but I often thought about him when I made a choice about life instead of reacting to it.

Several years later, I heard that he was involved in a serious accident, falling some 60 feet from a communications tower.

After 18 hours of surgery and weeks of intensive care, he was released from the hospital with rods placed in his back.

I saw him about six months after the accident.

When I asked him how he was, he replied, "If I were any better, I'd be twins...Wanna see my scars?"

I declined to see his wounds, but I did ask him what had gone through his mind as the accident took place.

"The first thing that went through my mind was the well-being of my soon-to-be born daughter," he replied. "Then, as I lay on the ground, I remembered that I had two choices:
I could choose to live or...I could choose to die. I chose to live."

"Weren't you scared? Did you lose consciousness?" I asked.

He continued, "...the paramedics were great. They kept telling me I was going to be fine. But when they wheeled me into the ER and I saw the expressions on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really scared. In their eyes, I read 'he's a dead man'. I knew I needed to take action."

"What did you do?" I asked.

"Well, there was a big burly nurse shouting questions at me," said John. "She asked if I was allergic to anything 'Yes, I replied.' The doctors and nurses stopped working as they waited for my reply. I took a deep breath and yelled, 'Gravity'

Over their laughter, I told them, "I am choosing to live. Operate on me as if I am alive, not dead."

He lived, thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also because of his amazing attitude...

I learned from him that every day we have the choice to live fully.

Attitude, after all, is everything.

Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.".

After all , today is the tomorrow you worried about yesterday.

Nice Thoughts To Share

1. Make up your mind to be happy.

Learn to find pleasure in simple things.

2. Make the best of your circumstances.

No one has everything, and everyone has something

Of sorrow intermingled with gladness of life.

The trick is to make the laughter outweigh the tears.

3. Don't take yourself too seriously.

Don't think that somehow you should be protected

From misfortune that befalls other people.

4. You can't please everybody.

Don't let criticism worry you.

5. Don't let your neighbor set your standards.

Be yourself.

6. Do the things you enjoy doing but

Stay out of debt.

7. Never borrow trouble.

Imaginary things are harder to bear

Than real ones.

8. Since hate poisons the soul,

Do not cherish jealousy.

Avoid people who make you

Unhappy.

9. Have many interests.

If you can't travel,

Read about new places.

10. Don't hold postmortems.

Don't spend your time brooding

Over sorrows or mistakes.

Don't be one who never gets

Over things.

11. Do what you can for those less

Fortunate than yourself.

12. Keep busy at something.

A busy person never has time

To be unhappy.

Have a nice day ahead!

Inspirations

Since i'm so bored today and have nothing to do beside watching movie or series, i might as well blog something today.

This is some of the inspirations that i would like to share with you all for the day.

Hope it does enlightened your day....