Wedding Preparation

The idea of planning a wedding can be very hectic especially for Chinese wedding from creating a budget, draft your guest list to booking the appropriate caterers, vendors, venue etc. and last but not least making sure you look perfect for the wedding by getting an amazing dress and getting beauty treatments done ahead of time. 

This is some of the process that I have gone through to prepare for my wedding which will be held on year 2020 if you are following traditional Chinese wedding. Hope below checklist can provide some guide. 

6 -12 months before the wedding day (after the proposal)

1) Have a meeting session between both family parents to announce wedding and discuss details like wedding date, what type of ceremony, dowry etc.

2) Pick a right wedding date and time according to birth date

3) Decide on a wedding budget (a must)

4) Register your marriage (R.O.M)

5) Survey on wedding venue, caterer, event planner

6) Plan for pre-wedding photoshoot

7) Book your make up artist in advance for your ROM

4 - 5 months before the wedding

1) Finalized guest list 

2) Get ready your 'heng dai' and 'ji mui' 

3) Decide on theme of wedding

4) Select outfits for your bridesmaid and best man

5) Get your pre-wedding photoshoot done as it take about 2 - 3 months to ready 

6) Book your florist (wedding bouquet) 

7) Book event planner and entertainment band  

2 -3 months before the wedding date 

1) Plan your wedding itinerary and ceremony formalities

2) Both side family start preparing the Guo Da Li (过大礼) ceremony 

3) Book wedding photographer or videographer 

4) Book make up artist and hairstylist for wedding day

5) Hire caterer for the morning tea ceremony

6) Select your wedding playlist and pass to your event planner

7) Decide on your sang keh mu (大妗姐)

8) Send out wedding invitation

1 month before the wedding

1) Delegate task to your wedding party 

2) Final fitting for wedding dress or kuan kua (裙褂)

3) Decide on seating arrangement

4) Confirm with vendors that everything is in order

5) Confirm wedding day programme with event planner, emcee etc. 

6) Have the Guo Da Li (过大礼) ceremony  

2 - 1 week before the wedding 

1) Ensure all guest have RSVP their seat

2) Purchase small gift for guest as a token of thanks 

3) Confirm with sang keh mu (大妗姐) about itinerary for wedding day

4) Conduct An Chuang (安床) ceremony or best know as The Matrimonial Bedsetting Ceremony

5) Prepare cheques in advance to pay vendors 

1 day before the wedding 

1) Pack all your wedding day items and pass it to the person in charge

2) Check that you have everything (wedding dress, accessories, bouquet, etc)

3) Send wedding car for decoration

4) Ensure the ji mui is ready with their game plan 

5) Perform the Shang Tou (上头) or hair combing ceremony at night before sleep

With this wedding checklist, I hope it will help reduce some stress on you while planning and may your dream wedding come true. 

~ HAPPY WEDDING ~

Year 2018

Hello there,

It's really been very long I have not written anything in this blog of mine. Always busy catching with what God has offered me throughout the year.

Well, I can say that last year 2017 has been good to me. My lady luck is with me and I can proudly say that I found the love of my life. Not only that, my career is also progressing well as I got promoted early this year. ^_^

What can I expect more since everything sailing smoothly.. Just be thankful that God has send me a wonderful guardian and gift to accompany me now, in future and till the end of time.

What's Next?

At last I completed my postgraduate the day I submit my dissertation. Feeling happy :D

So, what's next?

Lots of people been asking me this question and some even given me some options to consider...

Options available:

1) Find a job and start your career
2) Find a bf and get married
3) Learn to be Mrs
4) Stay at home and grow mushrooms
5) Go travelling
6) Continue PHD

Which one will you choose?

Wonder

I have been wondering for quite sometimes what will my future brings after I completed my postgraduate studies.

Questions keep popping in my mind there and then. Such as what career is suitable? Will I be able to find a job in current economy? When will the opportunities knock?

As the age is coming up, it's getting harder and harder to find a job with limited working experience that I currently have. Really getting into my nerves without me thinking of it as day by day just past like that in a blink of eyes.

Hoping there will be light guiding me in whatever decisions I make.

Pile Up

It's already April and my dissertation proposal still pending and need amending several times.

Not only that, I'm also having double head trying to learn the GST system set up for my mum business. Plus having to do account for filing.

With all this added up, my workload is piling up and in mess. Not sure which to begin as each of the dateline is near to another and approaching. Do I have enough time to clear all this load?

I must have faith in myself! I'm sure I can do it!

JIA YOU!

Lost

I have lost myself in my own world for quite some time. Since unemployed for almost half a year, my lazy-ness have consumed most of my daily life. Everyday I will sleep late and wake up late too. Although I still got assignments to complete before dateline, I will just lost concentration on it and do other unrelated things.

I tried apply for job, went for interview but no reply at the end of the day. I tried wake up early and be healthy also in vain.

What have I become and did to myself? I need someone or guidance to guide me back to normal route.

=( 

Reality Check

Nothing that I have plan is going the way I want it to go. That includes work and simpler things, like study.


Is this a test? A test to reassess my priorities and determine the final destination that I should be heading?


It is so hard for me to rebuild back my foundation and self-worth. I feel so stranded though I know that everything happens for a reason.


Let it come around in its own time and keep my life in balance. Whichever way it comes in or whatever the results is, I accept that I will use it as an opportunity to either try again, make amends or make it right.

Tried - and - True

Take a good hard look of myself.

I am struggling at work and find myself annoyed with just about everybody and everything. It's time I dealt with unresolved issues, deep fears or unfinished business.

Staying busy, turning to familiar comforts or resorting to compulsive behaviour could be covering up denial, suffering, stagnation or heartache.

I must genuinely come to terms with the truth by confronting or forgiving my own role in whatever it is I regret so that I can let go, move on and become more open to opportunity.

On top of that, I must master self-control to tame fears or impulses to prove of what stuff I'm made. I must try not to fall back to become my old self otherwise I will be feeling trapped again.

So, I need to recover my wits before making my next move. I must be willing to raise expectations and overcome fear of rejection, discovery or isolation.

At the end, I must tune in to my own passion to move forward with a sense of freedom and purpose.

Smile Pretty

Is what I'm going to do this weekend.

Feeling this good doesn't happen often, so enjoy it. I might also keep in mind that I can accomplish a lot if I jot down all the inevitable inspirations and motivations that I received recently. As twitching and fiddling won't help. And the remedy for it is get the deed done. Happy Friday! ^o^

Now I See It

Yesterday, I were absolutely certain I'd found the right path, the perfect company and the job whose style finally allowed me to express myself as I really are. Today, all that's changed -- drastically. Am I upset about it? At times I do. But I'm out experimenting.


I must be positive and avoid the negatives.... Plus don't think too much or over think... Move forward in the direction I've been meaning to go.


Today, all I have to do is walk one step at a time and at moderate pace...  =)

Screw Up

Everything that happen lately is a disaster.

 

1. Interview - not in smooth ground.

2. Group presentation -  we me literally have to re work again before the submission.

3. Personal - lack of sleep end up fall down

 

How much more can I bear?  =(

 

 

Another Ordinary Day!

It just another ordinary day.

Getting ready for anything that come by. From being unemployed to grabbing any part time job available to assignment group discussion that come to no end.

What more do I have to deal?

*Clueless*

Competitive

Today have my 2nd interview with this company. There is 3 of us for this session that have passed through the 1st interview. Each of us is assigned with a trainer to brief us on what the company do and what is the company expectation on us. After that, we are individually brought out by our trainer to other place for more comfort conversation rather than in office. Coincidentally, our trainer have the same mind set where three of us met again after 10 minutes drive at the same place - Old Town at New World Park.

We have about 2 hours plus of discussion with our trainer asking question that we have in mind. Once finished the discussion and get whatever answer that we want to hear, we are back to the office. There, we are asked to answer 14 questions on what we know or learned from the one to one discussion with the trainer. Then, we have a brief and short interview with the manager.

After the one to one discussion and short interview, we are now asked to wait patiently for news. Whether its good or bad... I can feel the tense among the 3 of us.. Possibility of getting the job is nil as I can sense the other 2 guy have the most motivation to achieve it.

Very competitive and I feel it very challenging. I never once felt so challenging when going for an interview. Cause most of the time is either the interviewer say sorry you are not the right one or we will contact you in due time.

Just wondering myself, am I up to par for this job? One more thing, will I accept the kind of salary that will be based purely on commission like type and on the performance?

Wondering...

1.3.14

Today date represent forever, a day that only happen once in lifetime.

To celebrate the date, me and 2 friends of mine C & C, coincidently both name start with C - female & male, when for a movie. The movie that we watched is The Journey, a local movie by Astro Shaw. Watching the movie on this day really make my day happy and sad at the same time. It make me miss my dad very much and at the same time feel glad that I still have mum beside me throughout the journey....

It really worth watching the movie. It reminds us not to forget our root, moral values and our custom even we have left to overseas. I will give 5 star for rating..




P/S:Would like to say I luv u, mum!

Let It Go

I think its time for me to let go of the past. And look for the future path that I want to be. Master has taken a portion of my life beside working full time. Looking forward to start my life freshly starting next year.

Hoping the grass will be greener on the other side.

Haywire

Lots of things happen recently. What I thought will be my future path way is dashed. Now I really don't know what to do. Should I find another path or stick with the current path and see how things go?

Work and study really has zig zag each other and crumble into a knot ball that so hard to loose it. Should I give up? I really don't have the answer. All I know is everything is so freaking out of my control.

Maybe I should have not day dream so early before things really happen. Like people say, "Don't count the chickens before they hatch."

Not in the good mood..

At Crossroad

Received a phone call from a property company asking me to go for 2nd interview. Should i go? Before making any decision, perhaps i should tell why i'm at crossroad..

The 1st interview happened like 10 months ago when i'm still looking for work at the time. The 1st interview went ok but no news after that. But why now? Must be something fishy.

Sigh.. Should i give a 2nd chance for the interview? And give up current job?
Decision... Decision...

Cof-fee

Gosh! Ever since i started working as maketing staff in college, i have become a coffee addict. Which is not good at all.

Friends been asking me why i drink coffee? Is it because of tension? I'm also unsure.

Just know that i should not rely too much on caffeine to ease sleepiness during work. As this mean i'm not healthy as seen.

Though coffee is full of antioxidant, drinking too much is still a harm to general health.

What should i do? Enough sleep is the 1st step that i can think of follow by some light exercises during break. Which i hope i can do it.

No, is not a hope. Is a MUST!



Lost

i'm so motivation-less... So lost...

i actually doesn't know what i want in life or where i should headed to..

direction-less...

Unhappy

It only nearly 2 weeks i been working in this new company and i'm not happy. though the pay and working hours is good compare to my previous company but i don't like the office environment at all. here is too chinese-y, meaning the colleagues here is 100% is chinese either speaking mandarin or cantanose. this kind of environment is not i want. not only that, the office is quiet as well. no one talking to each other. like that how to survive. sure die. i'm used to working with different people with different race and suddenly stuck in this environment is making me crazy.

i'm soooooooo unhappy!!!!! :(